Let a requirement be optional, binding only a provider that already runs (hq issue 166, ADR 0330)

Making every soft dependency a provision made it hard: a mesh without influxdb could not assign
grafana, and one with influxdb in its catalogue would install it for grafana. A requirement may now
be written {"name": ..., "optional": true}. It resolves as a hard one when a provider is assigned or
reachable, and is otherwise absent: never refused, nothing installed for it. Its binding, credential
and only-when-bound files are left out, its ${bound:...|default:...} placeholders take their
defaults, the module check refuses one that could render empty, and plan and node list it unbound.

cmd/mesh-controller/plan.go

@@ -1315,6 +1315,14 @@ func planCommand(ctx context.Context, args []string) error {
 		fmt.Printf("%s is assigned nothing\n", args[0])
 		return nil
 	}
+	// Which optional requirements are unbound (novox/hq ADR 0330 §7): beside the document on the
+	// error stream where the answer is the declaration itself, which carries no such field — the
+	// node-engine refuses an envelope key it does not know.
+	if *asDiff || *asJSON {
+		for _, line := range unboundLines(plan) {
+			fmt.Fprintf(os.Stderr, "%s:%s\n", args[0], line)
+		}
+	}
 	if *asDiff {
 		declared, err := declarationFor(ctx, open, args[0], plan, settings)
 		if err != nil {
@@ -1396,6 +1404,9 @@ func planCommand(ctx context.Context, args []string) error {
 	for _, n := range plan.Needs {
 		fmt.Printf("  needs %s from %s, for %s\n", n.Name, n.From, n.For)
 	}
+	for _, line := range unboundLines(plan) {
+		fmt.Println(line)
+	}
 	declared, err := declarationFor(ctx, open, args[0], plan, settings)
 	if err != nil {
 		return err