Ask at most three at a time, wait out a refusal, need a router, and act only on a claimed open ask, as the review asked (hq ADR 0259)

go.mod

@@ -3,7 +3,9 @@ module github.com/novox/mesh-controller
 go 1.26.0
 
 require (
+	git.novox.be/novox/mesh-sdk/go v0.1.8-0.20261008162031-55090da7e08f
 	github.com/jackc/pgx/v5 v5.10.0
+	github.com/nats-io/nats-server/v2 v2.11.17
 	github.com/nats-io/nats.go v1.54.0
 	github.com/novox/mesh-host v0.0.0
 	golang.org/x/crypto v0.57.0
@@ -11,7 +13,6 @@ require (
 )
 
 require (
-	git.novox.be/novox/mesh-sdk/go v0.1.8-0.20261008145004-62367ce15ad6 // indirect
 	github.com/antithesishq/antithesis-sdk-go v0.7.0-default-no-op // indirect
 	github.com/google/go-tpm v0.9.8 // indirect
 	github.com/jackc/pgpassfile v1.0.0 // indirect
@@ -20,10 +21,8 @@ require (
 	github.com/klauspost/compress v1.20.0 // indirect
 	github.com/minio/highwayhash v1.0.4 // indirect
 	github.com/nats-io/jwt/v2 v2.8.1 // indirect
-	github.com/nats-io/nats-server/v2 v2.11.17 // indirect
 	github.com/nats-io/nkeys v0.4.16 // indirect
 	github.com/nats-io/nuid v1.0.1 // indirect
-	go.uber.org/automaxprocs v1.6.0 // indirect
 	golang.org/x/sync v0.23.0 // indirect
 	golang.org/x/sys v0.48.0 // indirect
 	golang.org/x/text v0.42.0 // indirect