Count a dead letter by when it was kept, so one kept late still counts (issue 440)

The give-up time is not newer for every letter kept: a notice that could
not be kept is offered again a minute later, so a later give-up can be kept
first and the one after it read as not fresh. The stored time rises with the
stream's sequence. A consumer whose letters vanish between the two reads is
left out of the look instead of counted as a look, and the skip of a
token-less max-deliveries advisory now has a test of its own.

cmd/mesh-controller/advisories_counted_test.go

@@ -166,3 +166,15 @@ func TestAMessageThatCouldNotBeKeptIsStillSaidFromTheAdvisory(t *testing.T) {
 		t.Fatalf("%+v", said)
 	}
 }
+
+// A max-deliveries advisory without a token names a consumer's dead-letter key, which only DEAD_LETTERS
+// says (novox/hq issues 330 and 440): with nothing held, the advisory alone raises nothing.
+func TestAMaxDeliveriesAdvisoryAloneRaisesNothing(t *testing.T) {
+	at := time.Date(2026, 10, 10, 21, 4, 0, 0, time.UTC)
+	f := &signalFacts{now: at, host: "novox", advisories: []link.Advisory{{Kind: link.AdvisoryMaxDeliveries,
+		ID: "EVENTS.media_sonarr", Stream: "EVENTS", Consumer: "media_sonarr",
+		Said: "sonarr on media handed message 7 over 5 times and gave up on it", First: at, Last: at, Count: 1}}}
+	if said := watchAdvisories(f); len(said) != 0 {
+		t.Fatalf("said %+v", said)
+	}
+}