Ask the operator only once the bus holds the controller's grant to ask (hq issue 353)

The grant is composed from the router's assignment and reaches the bus when its machine is next
pushed. Between assign and push the record said a router was here and the bus refused every ask
(seven refusals on 2026-10-09, 17:54 to 17:56). The asker now judges, as a push does, whether the
bus's machine was last sent the user list composed now; while it was not, nothing is published, it
is said once, and the conditions that need the operator are raised as undelivered, naming the push
that carries the grant.

cmd/mesh-controller/asker.go

@@ -167,6 +167,11 @@ type asker struct {
 	routerRecord func(ctx context.Context, id string) (*asks.Warrant, error)
 	// routerHere says whether a router holds the seat and takes asks under the asker's name; nil is yes.
 	routerHere func(ctx context.Context) (bool, error)
+	// grantHeld says whether the bus holds the controller's grant to ask: the user list the bus's machine was
+	// last sent is the one the mesh composes now (novox/hq issue 353). The grant is composed from the router's
+	// assignment and reaches the bus only when that machine is next pushed, so between `assign` and `push`
+	// the record says a router is here and the bus refuses every ask. why says what to do; nil is yes.
+	grantHeld func(ctx context.Context) (held bool, why string, err error)
 	// channels is what the channels are now, as a fingerprint: who holds which kind, promising what.
 	channels func(ctx context.Context) string
 	// raise keeps the asker's own condition (sourceAsker): which conditions needing the operator could not be
@@ -176,6 +181,7 @@ type asker struct {
 	logf  func(string, ...any)
 
 	saidNoRouter bool
+	saidNoGrant  bool
 
 	mu     sync.Mutex
 	nudged chan struct{}
@@ -258,6 +264,30 @@ func (a *asker) reconcile(ctx context.Context) error {
 		}
 		a.saidNoRouter = false
 	}
+	if a.grantHeld != nil {
+		held, why, err := a.grantHeld(ctx)
+		if err != nil {
+			return err
+		}
+		if !held {
+			if !a.saidNoGrant {
+				a.logf("the bus does not hold the controller's grant to ask yet: %s; the operator is asked nothing until it does", why)
+				a.saidNoGrant = true
+			}
+			open, err := a.open(ctx)
+			if err != nil {
+				return err
+			}
+			var unasked []conditions.Condition
+			for _, c := range open {
+				if wants(c, now) {
+					unasked = append(unasked, c)
+				}
+			}
+			return a.sayUnasked(ctx, unasked, "the bus does not hold the controller's grant to ask yet: "+why)
+		}
+		a.saidNoGrant = false
+	}
 	channels := ""
 	if a.channels != nil {
 		channels = a.channels(ctx)